Theme: CONSISTENCY

We want others to be consistent so we can project onto them the image we are creating through our beliefs about them. We project and we overlay.

I believe this person is successful

I believe this person is fun

I believe this person is weak

Emotional attributes. The intangible. That’s what we project. Our beliefs

And there are the tangibles like

This person lives in a big house.

This person is French.

This person works for Lufthansa.

This person walks to school every day.

We feel the need to project the intangible onto the tangible. In order to make it more tangible.

We observe the tangible in order to make conclusions about the intangible:

This person lives in a big house …. So I believe she is successful.

This person is French …. So I believe he is a really good lover.

We believe but we don’t know. But we want to know, so we project.

And the more consistent the ‘body’ we project upon is, the more layers we can project onto, layers that are more and more tinted. And the body of projection reflects all those projections back onto us by being consistent. It makes the image clearer and stronger.

So we can know. And react.

But what happens when the ‘body’ (makes) changes (to) its consistency?

The image we see changes.

And we don’t know anymore.

The thing with projections is that you need a blank surface. Ideally white and plain. What happens when you project onto stone? Or grass? Or a tree?

The image changes.

What about fire? Air? Water? The least consistent the ‘body’, the more it is impossible to project.

That’s why when people/ bodies make changes in their lives or their bodies and surface of projection changes, our image changes and we don’t recognise the image we have created of them anymore.

We cannot react to it the way we are used to.

That’s why when you make changes in your life, your so called friends don’t understand anymore. You consistency changed. You are no longer stable.

Consistency = A form of stability

If changes are dramatic, you loose your friends. You think they are happy for you because you are improving your life but the matter is that they don’t know you anymore and therefore don’t know how to react to you. The reflection has changed.

Isn’t it funny that when you loose weight that friends first admire you but then also comment that you look less healthy … it really surprised me.

Deep down they prefer the ‘old’ you, because with the old you came a specific set of projection slides.

I wonder … Are accident deliberate? Sometimes the timing is just too perfect.

Am I a bitch for thinking that accidents can be done deliberately? Maybe.

Do I want to find a pattern? Maybe.

Am I attached to the outcome of my findings? Maybe

It will tint/confirm my projection.

Will I see her differently? Probably

Does it matter how I see someone?

If it doesn’t matter to me, it doesn’t matter.

Well, I have decided to not buy into drama anyway. I won’t say anything because that would be unkind because they can’t help themselves but I also won’t react.

Making suggestions to someone’s behaviour or appearance only makes sense when they can actually make changes. In their case that is not easily possible. But I also don’t have to care.

Detach myself from the outcome. Does it matter if there is drama? Not really, because it does not concern me.

They can do whatever they want. I can see it for what it is. I can observe but I don’t have to REACT. I can just be quietly amused.

At night, when the city is quiet and I can only hear the wind, the wind can be mistaken as the ocean. And when I close my eyes the feeling of my wool socks against the soles of my feet can be mistaken for the feel of sand. I shall dream of being on the beach. And it will come.

https://open.spotify.com/track/3rkYD17LrVaX0m98DWSI87?si=ztl_xy6oRYaoB7inO2Flww

It feels like Spring. So my summer is coming.

I shall only smoke in the evening to facilitate the dream.

OMG, fascinating dynamics.

Whereas I used to get constant desperate messages from Jones, now there is nothing. He is not pulling anymore, not desperate. And I where does a moment I was relaxed and happy about this, now it feels slightly off. Even when I message him to enquire about his mother, there is nothing. I am trying not to worry.

Clearly, he is much more confident now since he came back from detox. Which is exactly what I wanted him to be. But now I cannot help buy feeling a slight tug (tension) into the other direction …

I know that he is not desperate and random anymore … but What is he instead? I cannot read anything … so there is a slight worry that is setting in. My projection is not working anymore because the ‘body’ onto which I projected my slides, has changed.

This is how it feels like, lol

feeling a slight unease.

Trying not to get worried.

With his new confidence anything can happen:

• he could fall out of love with me
• He could be meeting other women
• He might not need me anymore and find someone else

WTF 😂

Why is there a faint whiff of insecurities popping up?

THE KEY IS GENUINELY NOT TO CARE

It is his choice to stay as much as it is my choice. Whatever we choose is the right choice for us at that moment. No point of worrying about it or getting insecure.

BECAUSE IT

The beauty of it all is that

PROJECTION CAN BE DECEPTIVE

Light on water can look like fire 🔥

It’s all on the head.

BE INCONSISTENT

CONSISTENTLY